Supporting my husband

[SimonInEdinburgh]

Hi @Alyson1

Apart from the ‘hello & welcome’ I won’t repeat the above. I’m so sorry to read your current unhappy predicament

Two (of many) threads on personality change, resentment etc are:

Am I being selfish?

Hi. My husband had a massive stroke 2 years ago almost to the day. Physically we were so lucky but the speech was an issue… we engaged with therapy but didn’t really see a massive improvement…. My very naive question is - the complete and utter personality switch - is that a thing and will it ever improve!??..… I bite my tongue daily I do - and his speech is really great and functional - he is back to his day job and travels as he used to - I think (he doesn’t tell me)!.. tends to only be when …

My story

Well, I must say, you are all so marvelous. I cant do it. I am going to have to walk out ( My mother died recently - I cared for her for two years at home with congestive heart failure ). My husband isnt half as immobile as many here are. But neither is he able to walk far. Thats part of the problem. He has other issues I have never met - like personality changes. He is constantly watching me. He has accused me of having another man! I havent been out of the house except to go sho…

You might find this:

40 things to know

Forty Things I Needed Most Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D.

Jill Bolte Taylor was a healthy 37-year-old neuroanatomist at Harvard when, one morning...tap for more

… in 1996, she suffered a massive stroke in the left hemisphere of her brain. In four hours she lost her ability to walk, talk, read, write, and remember parts of her past. From <a href="https://www.brainandlife.org/articles/my-stroke-of-insight#:~:text=Jill%20Bolte%20Taylor%20was%20a,remember%20parts%20of%20her%20past.">https…

gives you some insights in how he is feeling which MAY? help?

Also pointing out to any “you look well” commentators the there are many hidden neurological/ psych-/ emotional impacts for ALL the #StrokeThrivers (?) family

Maybe asking the GP for assistance for BOTH of you (in different ways) is also called for?

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Also as well as the Here For You service (sign-up form) and stroke helpline

There are other orgs offering carer info & support such as

Helpline and other support | Carers UK

And

Contact local support groups

https://www.stroke.org.uk/stroke/support/groups/map-local

And

https://differentstrokes.co.uk/all-groups/

And also ageUk, altziemers society that have common support needs so have suggestions & networks

At less than a year he is relatively early in the stroke journey but that’s not really very comforting I guess. However it & what you’ve said does say YOU need support. The groups above can suggest & local groups often provide respite breaks - which may do you both different sorts of good.

There is more here but this is probably enough for now

Simon