New and not coping

Hi @Marie123 welcome to the forum, the club no one wanted to join but very happy we are here for each other now :smile: :people_hugging:

This has been quite the shock for you both, but know this, your husband is in good hands and now in the right place to start his road to recovery. And that is a very good sign! It might be good if you can also show him this post and site, I’m sure it would go a great way to reassuring him too.

I couldn’t speak after my stroke, right side paralysis too so couldn’t walk or do anything with right arm. The speech was the biggest issue for me; I’d rather lose an arm and leg than my speech. I couldn’t ask any of those questions that really need asking.

My stroke was during the covid lock downs so I didn’t have my hubby to visit to ask all those questions that needed asking. In fact there was very little explanation to my condition or outcome and what the future holds for me other than things will improve over time basically.

So you can feel a little trapped and very isolate inside your head, you can hear and understand perfectly but can’t communicate, it’s like living in a glass box! It took some months for me to go from speaking nothing, to gibberish, to simple legible speech, but I got there in the end and so can your husband :blush:

I do still have a mild Aphasia, and that is something you might want to read up on just in case. For me my word finding is not so bad these days but my stumbling block is still getting them out of my mouth, but to anyone else its just a bit of a stammer now. There is so much more to this speech malarkey than you realise :face_with_spiral_eyes:

His reading ability might be limited just a few lines at a time, that is something else that will increase over time.

Books/newspapers/magazines may very well be too overwhelming to read, too much text; my reply to you may very well be too much for him yet. That’s why I try to break up my text into smaller bites, so it’s not too overwhelming to other readers :smile:

You never said whether he has any limb paralysis or other issues so I’m assuming you husband’s speech is the biggest issue for him. There are no stupid questions when it comes to strokes so ask anything and there will always be someone here to answer or help to find it. Life will calm down for you soon if you let it. In the meantime take care of yourself and if you need someone to talk to there is always the Stroke Associations helpline so give them a ring :smile: :people_hugging:
https://www.stroke.org.uk/stroke/support/helpline

https://www.stroke.org.uk/stroke/support

Here’s a little inspiration for you…just click on the blue title :smile:

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