You’ll relearn it and learn pace yourself. You’ve been in shock and your body shut down for the past 7 weeks. And you haven’t done “nothing”, your brain has been healing and that takes a lot of energy and concentration, this is major surgery and very delicate. It’s just too much to expect it to help around the house as well, it couldn’t handle both.
Right now, the brain is in charge, not you! It will tell you when it’s ready to do more. And clearly it has, its now ready for the next stage but it will go at it’s own pace not yours. Push it to its limits and it shuts down, that’s where the fatigue comes in. So you just have to learn your pace.
yes me only one month post stroke and my wife has been superb luckily i have not suffered any major effects so am still pretty much self sufficient but there have been times when i have been close to biting er head off when the pampering has got too much. need to sit her down and talk about it to find the right balance, she does it all with love of course and there are times when my feelings of guilt about turning her life upside down make it almost too much to bear, we will find a balance i’m sure ,so onwards we go.
Love to all
Wattsy
It does help to talk because your wife is not a mind reader
But also talking may relieve some bottled up worry and stress in her that you are not even aware of.
You are 79 after all, so I’m going to assume your wife is somewhere in that region too. I’m pretty sure she must have thought she was losing you when you had your stroke! She’s still reeling from that shock and rightly so, it’s only been about a month. You are not out of the woods yet and she knows this!
But you may relieve some pressure on her by letting her know she doesn’t need to fuss or do so much for you. That she is actually helping you more in your recovery by stepping back and letting you do for yourself. It’s not that you are being ungrateful and I’m sure you are thankful that you have her to call on if you do need help, to catch you when you fall so to speak.
Does she take any time out to do her own thing at all, any outside interests or activities she does as a break away from it all…where she can breath and destress a little? Because of course, another tac to take is turn the table a little and make a fuss of her…she went through it too!
