After 8 weeks in hospital after having a stroke and an SAH my husband is home at last. He has a bed downstairs at the back of the living room and luckily we have a downstairs toilet and shower room.
When we first got home he didn’t recognise it but now has remembered most things about it. He has also remembered the passcode needed to access his phone and various other things. Being at home is definitely helping his memory.
On Tues two carers will come to help and am wondering how this will work, my husband isn’t keen and gets a bit agitated about it, he thinks it is a waste of time and that they are just being nosey. I know it will benefit him in the long run but wondering how others got over this hump if their loved one wasn’t keen on having carers.
Thanks
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That is wonderful news @Babs03 .
You should discuss the care arrangement with your husband and help him understand it is in everyone’s best interest for him to be cared for by the carers.
The fact you have been given two carers means it is something that is needed to meet your husband’s care needs. I think you should be pleased you have been given this help as sometimes people struggle to get this type of care package and things can turn out really bad.
It is important he understands the carers are there to help him and they are not trying to be nosey or anything like that. Hopefully the carers are experienced and can build a good rapport with your husband. Sometimes they may not get on and it is important that your husband doesn’t do anything to “upset” them - we had many difficulties in the early days as carers did not understand and in some cases were not trained to care for someone in Mum’s condition. Hopefully the care agency did a proper care needs assessment (I hope they have met with your husband to discuss the care package) and are satisfied they can deliver.
If things don’t work out (and I really hope they do), you can change care agencies but it gets messy and disruptive to the routine and can become stressful.
From what I understand, your husband has good cognitive awareness and is able to communicate well - this will definitely help as he can communicate directly with the carers.
Wishing you and your husband all the best.
I don’t really have any advice but just wanted to say hello as a SAH survivor too. We’re pretty rare 
This is great news that he’s home and agitate enough to spur him on in his rehabilitation and recover, to get his what he can back of his life.
But one very important aspect of having carers is that many seem to forget, they are not just for him! And you need to make that very clear to him. You are his main carer, and you need to look after yourself, in order to look after him. By having these carers coming is taking a little bit of the load off your shoulders, doing a job so you don’t have to. This frees you up to do other things. If they have to do things like dress him or change bedding, maybe whilst he is still in it, or anything, two hands are always better than one. That spare’s your back and save you from being put out of action to care for him. It also spare’s your energy levels, relieves a little of the pressure you are under. You both really need to realise and appreciate this. You don’t need to martyr yourself, you take all the help you can get, for the sake of your own mental and physical health.
Lorraine
My wife had a slight stroke, at the begining of April…she wasn’t keen to have the stroke team come to visit her, as she was/is very independent…but they were absolutely brilliant, and answered any questions that we had regarding her recovery…they have stopped coming now as she is doing so well, but we have their number if we have any problems…
@Babs03 it’s great to hear that your husband is doing well since getting home. There really is no place like home.
As others have said the carers are there to help him but also relieve some of the pressure on you. Hopefully once they have been a few times your husband will settle into the routine. Maybe you can agree with him & them what tasks they can do which will help all round.
They really do make a difference, or in my experience they did when my dad needed them. We found them to be very friendly and helpful & although my dad didn’t want them he did see that it would help my mum out for a couple of hours a day.
Hope it goes well.
Ann