It’s now about 8 months since my last stroke. My physical recovery has been good, by appearance, you cannot tell I have suffered a stroke. I can do a lot of the things I did before. I can drive, luckily I retired early so don’t have to worry about work and have no physical disabilities. What I’m left with is fatigue and anxiety. I’m learning to pace myself a bit better which is helping but I find the fatigue so frustrating. I’m having CBT sessions which seem to be helping a bit with the anxiety and will hopefully help more. On Monday 16th October it will be 50 years since my Mum died (I was just 9), and 52 years since my Grandad, her Dad died. I have never been someone who marks anniversaries of loved ones passing (but I do have that one in my mind each year) but this year I’m struggling to get it out of my mind. I’ll be so relieved when the day passes, hopefully without any events!
The last thing I’ll write for now is about acceptance - accepting the ‘new me’. I struggle with this as I’m sure lots of us do. Here I have a bit of imposter syndrome, as I said I have no physical disabilities - but accepting the new fatigued and anxious me is difficult - and probably makes me more anxious! I know it isn’t just difficult for me but also for family and friends. I feel angry sometimes, and guilty sometimes - after all I’m still here, but have changed a bit inside and don’t have the energy to do everything I used to do or want to do. It isn’t as much of a ‘new me’ as many people have to try and accept, but it’s still difficult for me (I even feel guilty writing it).
I’m not looking for answers on here, it’s just helps to have somewhere to write it down in a place where others will understand.
Nigel