How long did it take for you too gain some confidence back ?
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Probably about a year when I went back to work, but I was always superconfident
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It usually takes a few set backs to achieve confidence and stability.
Once you have the experience of a few difficulties under your belt you begin to realise that you can survive it after all.
Having said that I myself am going through a bad patch right now.
I will just have to do what I can and look forward to better times.
keep on keepin on
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It took me quite a while before I was feeling like things were getting back to normal. And even after a year I can have a wobble at times. I think that’s always going to be the case though. More good times than bad ones though.
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So when he goes back it will help with confidence
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O know hope your ok. Hope your bad patch wont last long
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Thank you.
Me too, @Clairekirby1990, and best wishes with his growing confidence.
There will always be challenges. That’s part of being alive whoever we are.
I suppose just doing the best we can sums it up really.
Of course, encouragement from those around us can make a difference.
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@Clairekirby1990
I think the worst thing that goes with a stroke or other health issues is will it happen again. And we will never know that. So it’s always in the back of our head. For some it never happens again and for others it does. But we fight on. 
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I think my confidence came back slowly over a long period of time. I am not sure it has fully returned yet but I am loads better than I was.
I think it returned in stages as I tried different things a few times & they went ok.
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Keep on keeping on Bobs…..right back at you ….even if tough at the mo….thinking of you xxxxx
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o bless you
Weve been out today but he hasn’t got brilliant confidence.
Even tho he was talking to a stranger about his stroke really well today
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Perhaps things are different after you’ve had a stroke, but thinking about confidence in general, my observation is that there are some people who are confident by nature, some build their confidence by doing/learning and there are others who seem to always lack confidence.
Then there is that bit where sometimes self-confidence is seen or mis-interpreted as arrogance.
And if this applies to the world of stroke survivors, the same may also apply here. I am thinking of those members who knew they would recover or did not accept what the doctors were telling them about their chances of recovery.
Maybe I’m wrong but if I think of @pando and @Mich-mm , I would think they always had the confidence or they never lost it when they had the stroke.
I should be interested to hear from them because I this is an interesting topic that @Clairekirby1990 has raised.
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Hello @ManjiB and @Clairekirby1990 i was never particularly confident but have endured through some bloody awful events,I don’t see that as confidence more resilience. What I suffer post stroke is self-loathing with nothing to do I spend far too much time reviewing my life and critiquing it. For far too long I’ve looked to others to bolster my confidence what I can say,is this comes from within.if you can’t love yourself then nobody is going to!
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Aww thank you. That is very good advice.
Ill pass it on
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no confidence for at least a year or 2
My four-year arc
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Year 1 — spent most of it trying to commit suicide. Awful state.
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Year 2 — started pulling myself together, cheering up, and the turn: “I need to find out what happens next. If I kill myself, I never will — so maybe I should try.” Wanting to try, especially for my wife’s sake.
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Year 3 — things picked up. Got stuck into reading, gathering data, working on recovery in a smart way. Where I learned nature is there to heal us.
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Year 4 — connected with nature, pulled all the stops out, built the YouTube channel and the clips. Original thinking.
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Now — just finished year four, plenty of work ahead.
I also framed it as curiosity being what kept me here — the wish to find out what happens next — and the recovery as a sequence of stages.
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I agree, my “get up and go” (once I decided to act) is mainly resilience. Confidence is variable and kept in check by humility in the face of the daunting task of recovery.
Pando
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A quick thank you 
to @Mich-mm and @pando for their feedback.
I note that it was your resilience rather than confidence (or lack of) in the early stages that enabled you to move forward.
I deduce from that (and perhaps there may be a flaw in my logic of deduction) that it is resilience rather than confidence we need to think about when wrestling with stroke survival.
So it’s “I don’t feel confident, but I’ll have a go anyway!”?
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Thank you for all your comments.
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I’m with @Mrs5K on that, my confidence built up gradually with each individual activity/event/occasion/circumstance. Driving being the longest and hardest to overcome but I did it/do it and even after nearly 6 years I can still have wobbles. And it’s as @Bobbi says the set backs are part of the process of building your confidence. And the only way to build that confidence is through frequent exposure. The more you do it the easier it gets 
Lorraine
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Aww thank you Lorraine.
And for any thats gone back to work does that help confidence ?
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