I would also call it being stubborn. Early on I decided that this thing was not going to beat me.
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I find I am less confident at work now but I still get things done. But I do have to think about things more than I used to. As an example pre stroke I would just crack on & send an email, write a business case etc. Now I often write it, reread it, leave it till later then send it or sometimes I will run it past someone else. That has improved over time but still not where I used to be. Itâs a weird one because more often that not it is all fine but I just doubt it more.
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Hi @Clairekirby1990 Iâm not sure it was so much confidence for me always been the quietly confident type so for me is was more stoic and sheer willpower and stubborn determination, the young doctor chap pronounced my stroke and my reply was when do we start rehab. Same with physio but in truth setbacks dent the confidence too but for me was more the determination to get my life back.
Have had a few setbacks but have learned from then and gained a different confidence.
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That is interesting and excellent question.
For me it was not confidence it was a determination to make the best of my situation. Was I confident before? Simple answer is yes when it came to my job, I had to be. I could be a procastonator outwith. You have really made me think.
Iâll go for determination. Determination to be the best I could be in a difficult time in life probably brought confidence and even more determination.
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Interesting @EmeraldEyes exposure therapy.about 10 years ago I suffered terrible debilitating anxiety with driving,even to go just 10km to the supermarket but my uncle said to me âstop thatâ thatâs the best thing anyone couldâve said.iâm in therapy for my self-loathing and as my therapist gets to know me and hears about different parts of my life, âshe often says:âthat mustâve been hardâ I hate it when she says this,going back to the same uncle he used to say âlifeâs a bitch,then you marry oneâ I think thatâs more appropriate!
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Itâs the same principle to riding a bike after youâve fallen off, you get straight back on it. I was in a car crash 30 odd years ago. My hubby, who was back then my fiancĂ©, had me back behind the wheel the very next day, despite the broken rib, whiplash, bruised and aching all over 
And I still married the guy 
But I was only driving around empty carkparks, I wasnât really fit for much else 
Its the quickest and best way to overcome your fears, just have some safety procedures/back up plan in place to fall back on if/when youâve had enough for the day.
But thatâs just her trying to get you to open. And thatâs fine, go with it, donât fight. Itâs only you facing your fears/anxiety/self loathing in a safe, sane environment. And you always have the power to end the session at any time. The more you talk about them the less hold they have over you, the more confident you get in facing them. Use your therapy to your advantage. You know you are strong enough because youâre still here and fighting 
Lorraine
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