Well, it’s about nine weeks since my wife had her “slight” stroke, she is marginally better, but gets very frustrated, as she can’t do the things she used to do…for instance, she can’t remember how to use her mobile 'phone, or the TV remote control…I try to tell her that the memory will come back, and that it is early days yet…I dare say that there is no timescale for these things, but hopefully time will be a “great healer” as they say…
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Yep, it will come back to her in time, she’s just got to keep trying to use it. I love my computer as much as I love my phone and reading. So when I wasn’t doing any physical rehab I was always working on those three.
I had a basic Nokia mobile when I had my stroke. When I tried to use it in the hospital to message my family (no visitors due to lockdown), apparently they got all excited because I managed to send a dot/full stop 
Its not easy when you can only use your none dominant hand and your brain is scrambled 
But at least they knew I was alive and fighting back 
It will come back if she’s determined enough to keep on trying. I’ve since been upgraded to a smart phone which I actually find easier in many ways. I’ve even put it through a wash cycle which meant I had to get a further upgrade And I’ve little trouble adapting to each. Mind you, I’m 4yrs post stroke and with my brain much improved having things like cognition back onboard, it does make life much easier in general 
She will get there, it just takes time, patience and effort…and it is a great healer 
Lorraine
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Thanks for the reply…yes, she is a VERY determined lady, it’s very sad to see her struggling like she is, before the stroke she was very stubborn, and independent…fingers crossed that it comes back…
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I would say it’s less to do with memory and more to do with the brain fog that does clear over time. Brain fog can cause confusion which fees like memory loss but it is actually the brain too muddled with trying to repair itself and the aftershock trauma of having been struck.
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Things will improve slowly but if you can,don’t let her over do things. I clearly remember struggling with my basic Nokia after my stroke 8 years ago but I persevered and now manage my phone, I’m always on my tablet and love reading my Kindle.
Speaking as someone who was also very independent, very stubborn and determined, I know exactly how she feels. 
and sometimes when I get really frustrated my husband reminds me that the old me is still in there fighting to get out. 
It might not feel like it but it is still early days for your wife and I would say keep encouraging her and I’m sure with your love and support things will slowly improve.
Sending positive thoughts to both of you.
Regards Sue
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9 weeks is very very early in recovery terms so I am sure your wife’s skills with these things will improve. She should keep trying. Eventually it will stick. The time frame is different for everyone.
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Thank You for your kind words…
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I wonder if that is what got us here. I think that is what keeps us going, though.
I also feel the same way. We somehow deal with all this one way or another.
@Del80
You both have a long, long way to go through all this but you have one another, the love you share and that awkward determination to make a success of your efforts.
You have us lot here cheering you on, too, by the way.
keep on keepin on
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I am in a similar position, it’s now two years since my slight stroke, what i have learned is to break down what you need to relearn into small chunks and keep repeating until its easy then add the next piece of the puzzle, this way she’ll have a sense of achievement and appreciate the progress without the overwhelming frustration. Wishing you both happy progress
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