Sorry to hear your wheels have had to repair & I hope they’re back quicker than expected. I always found that, even if I didn’t want to use my car, if it wasn’t there I missed it.
Get that scooter out & have some mini adventures in the meantime.
Best wishes
Ann
It’s really difficult sometimes to move on from the what ifs & ruminating over what might be. I think you said previously that you were on some meds for your low mood. I know these can take a while to kick in but if they’re not helping please speak to your GP as they might need some adjustments.
I find distractions help keep me focussed on more positive things. Find something you enjoy or might enjoy if you tried it & give it a go.
You may also want to kook into the Stroke Association here for you service where they can link you up with someone who is going through/has been through a similar journey to you it would give you chance to talk to someone who understands about how you feel.
https://www.stroke.org.uk/stroke/support/weekly-volunteer-calls
Best wishes
Ann
Accepting the newyiouis very hard… I am nowunable to drive,and rely on family to take me everwhere.Iloved driving and the freedom it gave me. Thats 50 years of fun behind me. But im lucky Ican still get out and about with help…Most shopping comes to me now. Amazon profits have increased a lot thanks to me. Thingd could improve and I may get my licence back. Living in hope Pam.
You are right accepting the new you is difficult. I did find that once I accepted that things were going to be different, even just short to medium term, I was able to k9ve forward. I still rely on lifts & I too have increased the profits of online shops but it makes life easier for me right now so I just go with it.
Hope you get back to driving in the near future.
Ann
I agree,I thought I would come home and pick up wher I left off,but no wayIget more tired and cant rhink so fast or write clearly so. new ways. needed. Type with many errors and print.No driving so dependant on others And more. I shall never be quitr the same, but I am still me inside, an gratrful Im still here with full mobility etc.
Thanks @Mrs5K .
I have been sinking into a bad place, am aware of it, and am attempting to keep my nose above water.
I took your advice and bought my mini scooter, definitely happy about that.
Now I’ve listened again and went for a short excursion down the road.
It was just about to go dark so I was only out for about an hour.
It was freezing cold but the effect was better than any happy pill.
That short run has lifted my mood and was just what I needed.
So thank you again @Mrs5K
Engage forward thrusters, Mr Sulu
That tree isn’t wearing any clothes !!
the Daffy’s are coming out
Spring is just around the corner
Those trees will soon be getting their leaves on and we’ll feel warmer again.
It is my Strokey Versary this coming weekend.
Still here and still moving along towards new beginnings.
keep on keepin’ on
Good to hear your mini advenrure has lifted your mood a bit. Fresh air (& sounds like it was very fresh for your excursion) is definitely good for the soul.
I love to see the daffodils popping their heads out the ground. A definite sign that spring is on its way.
Happy stroke versary for the weekend. Try & do something positive & just remember how far you have come.
Best wishes
Ann xx
I shall try and get my licence back, but 5 months off the road is a long time. I still have a few months before I can re apply for licence return. I wondr what they make you do to prove you are fit enough. My visiion is still OK. But I thinmk I would feel a bit vulnerable on amobility scooter. I may try it yet. After my heart has recovered from its latest hiccup. Ithink I still sleep too much even after 5 years.
I suspect you might have to go.for a driveability assessment so they can check you are safe to drive. You’ll probably find you will cope ok with driving. A bit like riding a bike - you don’t forget. Of course you may have to have some adaptations depending on how you are affected.
I guess I felt a little bit vilnerable initially on my mobility scooter but not greatly abd the benefits of being able to get about far outweigh the negatives for me.
Hope you get over your heart hiccup soon.
Best wishes
Ann
Hi Pamp, I to am trying to get my license back after 4 years of not driving,
Fro wat I’ve read you need a license to cart out the assessment DVLA requires so first is a grant of a temporary license for a limited time while you take a few lessons and get assessed, then pending the outcome of that test a decision will be made.
Good luck.
Matt happy to lend it to you, I’m seen as a doom goblin by my family so not always as positive as I appear on this forum.
I am and have always been very focused and determined to recover the life I lost four years ago, hence the diatribe of my exploits and experiences in the hope bitcoin ates other which give my joy and renders me less a doom goblin.
Keep on driving forward there is no surrender no retreat in my approach to thy stroke life I will get the that vis the only outcome.
A bit ;like riding a Bike you said , perhaps not.Much laughter at the idea here. The first time I was nearly run over by a car, the second I ended up a mess being patched up in hospital. I am much safer driving a car believe me.50 years accident free driving. I may have a try for it. when I can
Whoops. The wrong choice - but if it made you laugh thats no bad thing…I hope. Sounds like your bike riding experience was a bit eventful. Getting back in a car will be a doddle after that.
Really sorry to hear of your experience but glad you can laugh.
In truth I would not go out solo quite yet always with my wife or son as crossing from dropped curb to curb is taking your life bin your hands. Pavement is the safest thing I’ve been on the road but not far cars treat you worse than cyclists.
I too am going for my driving license so hopefully will be back behind the wheel in the future.
Take care.
As an adult survivor of SA I had long chats with others on this topic, that we never know what we have missed, even if we have a longing for what we think it was like or was or what could have been, instead we can only learn how to thrive in our new lives… which is why support is so important to help overcome the hurdles to thriving.
Its the same with every big change… we have a vague idea of what we dont have or we might be missing but we don’t truly know…
I certainly only have idea of the difference between now and before the stroke, in both the before and in the now I can only seek ways to thrive and be happy,
I’m still finding my way in this new life, but i know i’ll get there at some point 
wishing everyone ooddles of happiness
I hope so if I can make another 5 months seizure free. I am safest on wheels. I ued to love my roller skates when young, went evrywhere o n them. No licence needed so DVLA need not be involved. Grandson just learning to use his, we could go out together!. Perhaps restarting my skating career at 74 is a bit ambitiousL LOL. Pam
never say never. 
my roller skating experience wasn’t great. I still bare the scars from all the accidents. Not that it stopped me but then you’re invincible when you’re a child aren’t you 
You certainly are. Stroke will never happen either when you sre youn. Back in those days, I thought that I might still be alive to see the year 2000. Still here You dont get rid of me that easy. 
