Hi my name is Nasrin. My husband suffered an ischemic stroke at the end of February. After 10 weeks in hospital, he’s now home. He is walking with the aid of a stick but still unable to use his left atm/hand. Our daughter is 20 and is struggling to come to terms with what has happened. She is home from university and is finding it very hard to cope. I was wondering if anyone in the community had children of a similar age who would be willing to talk to my daughter to share their experience or if you had any recommendations for counselling services. Thanks
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Hi @Shepherds1826 and welcome to the community. Sorry to hear of your husband’s stroke & the difficulties your daughter is experiencing.
The Stroke Association have a here for you service where you can arrange for her to have a call from someone who has been through something similar. You can find out more & sign up at this link:
Also try the Stroke association helpline 0303 3033 100 and they will be able to point you in the direction of some support for her.
There is also a charity called Different Strokes who have a Facebook Group for younger people who are affected by stroke.
Hopefully those links are a good starting point for you.
Best wishes
Ann
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My daughter is 42, and she was the same however I do know that the Stroke association do online activities with just younger ones affected either a stroke themselves or family member
https://www.stroke.org.uk/stroke/support/online-activities
Or ring their helpline
And as mentioned Different stokes there are quite a few on there affected by strokes in one way or another including family members
https://differentstrokes.co.uk/
It’s very hard on our children when they see a parent go through this especially if they were fit before. It goes without saying that communication is the key so I’m sure you’re encouraging conversations with her and listening to her concerns. I wish you all the best as a mom.
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Hi @Shepherds1826 I’ve jumped on to say hello and welcome to our community. Sorry to hear of your husband’s stroke and the difficulties your daughter is experiencing. Stroke is a traumatic event and affects everyone in the family.
I can see you have already received some good advice and information so I won’t repeat everything. I would just recommend the Different Strokes charity which offers a unique service to younger stroke survivors and their families.
I wish you and your family well and hope that your daughter finds some help and support soon.
Regards Sue
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Hello Nasrin - welcome to the community.
Sorry your daughter is experiencing difficulties coming to terms with your husband’s stroke.
Were you (family) offered any counselling by the hospital team who looked after your husband?
Also, I wonder if you as a family can sit down and discuss the situation.
I don’t know how well your husband is (or indeed you) coping with the situation, but if your husband has accepted the situation and feels he can reassure your daughter, that might be the best thing as it comes from the father who your daughter is worried about.
I note other members have given you pointers for professional or volunteer organisations based advice and help.
Namaste|
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Thank you for your suggestions Ann. Much appreciated.
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Thank you Sue. I’ll try Different Strokes.
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Thank you. We are not great at talking as a family but maybe now is a good time to start.
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Hey Nasrin - sometimes, it takes something like this, unfortunate as it is to bring family members closer. I am a firm believer in the old adage, “Blood is thicker than water”.
I hope it all works out for you 
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Welcome to the community, I’m sorry to hear about your husbands stroke and the difficulties your daughter is going through.
I can see you’ve had some great advice already which I would echo. I hope you’ll find this community useful for your husbands recovery, there is such a wealth of knowledge here.
If you need anything whilst you’re using the Online Community, please don’t hesitate to tag me using the @ symbol and my username.
Anna