Today it is one year since my partner had his stroke. We take things day by day. We have got into a good routine and are coping well but being the anniversary it brings everthing back and makes me realise how much he has been through. People told me of the many ups and downs we would go through and they weren’t wrong! We didn’t even realise he was having a stroke at first as there were no obvious signs that you expect to see. It was only when the mri scan showed “multiple embolic infarcts” that we realised how serious it was. After spending a few days in intensive care I will never forget the look of fear in his eyes when he realised he couldn’t speak. After spending four months in hospital, having a peg tube fitted due to eating issues from the dysphagia we then had the stress of finding carers for him, getting adaptions done etc. I still get anxious when he starts to feel under the weather as he can get very sick very quickly. Since he came home in July he has had sepsis on three occasions. The last one in december being the worst as the infection that started in his chest spread to his bloodstream. Each time he fights it and comes back home. He’s been through so much in his life with having cerebral palsy and now the stroke on top. He’s not even 60 yet! In fact its his 59th birthday next saturday. I’m incredibly proud of him and make sure he knows it. Sorry for going on! Its just feels like a big day for me. I know its early days in regards to recovery from a stroke but things are definitely going in the right direction. Last of all thankyou to everyone on here that has given us some great advice. It means everything to me
@paula123 it sounds like you’ve had a difficult year but with many positives too. Stroke recovery in its own is hard enough without then having to deal with sepsis & cerebal palsy. Your husband sounds like a strong guy and no doubt you are too as this journey affects you just as much.
Hopefully year 2 will see many more improvements. Hope he has a lovely birthday next weekend.
Hi @paula123 What a year you have both had. Recovery following a stroke is difficult enough without dealing with your husband’s other health issues. Stroke Anniversary is a tough day in the early stages of recovery but as the years go by this does lessen. I’m 8 years post stroke and to be honest the anniversary date comes and goes without me even noticing. I’m so pleased that this community has been helpful to you, It’s still my “go to” place if I need advice and information. Speaking to people who know exactly what you are going through is worth it’s weight in gold.
I hope this year progresses well for both of you. It sounds like you are a strong couple I wish you both well and Happy 59th Birthday to your husband.
Hi @paula123 - Well done on getting through one year. Both you and your partner have done amazingly well. Stroke recovery is not easy and made more challenging as each case is unique (at least as I see it). We are having to learn from our own experiences and are left to cope by ourselves as support starts to fade after predetermined time milestones.
With a positive frame of mind and achievable/measurable/flexible goal setting both you and your partner can continue down this path and you will be pleasantly surprised.
Look forward, keep reminding yourselves of your achievements and enjoy life
It sounds like it’s been a tough year for you both. I hope this next year is better for both of you and your husband continues to progress well with his recovery.
Wishing your husband a happy birthday for Saturday.
