My partner takes frustration out on me n our son
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Welcome to the community. I’m sorry to hear that your partner is taking their frustration out on you and your son. Is it your partner that has had a stroke?
Anna
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Hi @Clairekirby1990 and welcome to the community.
It must be hard for you when your oartner takes their frustration out on you and your son.
I assume from the post title that it is your parents that had a stroke? Are you having to care for them & is that what your partner is finsing difficult?
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Yes my partner had a blood clot stroke
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So.sorry I meant my partner had a stroke. Im helping him atm
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We have some information on our website about emotional and behavioural changes after a stroke, this could be what is effecting your partner.
Do you have any other support that is helping you with caring for your partner. Caring for someone after a stroke can be difficult, if you don’t have other family members or friends, please speak with your GP to get support for yourself too.
I’m sure some of our members will also be along to offer you support with this too and I hope you’ll find this community helpful.
Anna
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Ah sorry. Very hard for you. The stroke association has a leaflet about emotional changes post stroke which may be worth a read.
https://www.stroke.org.uk/stroke/effects/emotional
I imagine he is struggling to take in what has happeened. But it isn’t fair for him to take it out on you. His brain has taken a battering and it takes time to recover so i would hope he will become less frustrated in time. You don’t say how severe the stroke was and maybe that’s having an impact.
Have you told him how that he’s doing that? He might not realise how much it is affecting you.
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Thank you so much.
I definitely need some support x
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Hello.i have told him hes doing well but he dont see.it.
Hes got expressive dysplasia.
So only affected his communication skills. X
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You’re in the right place for getting some support. This is a very supportive community and we have lots of people on here who have been through similar.
You’ve mentioned that your partner has communication difficulties. We also have some information on our website about this too, which you may find helpful to have a read of.
As @Mrs5K has mentioned it isn’t fair for him to take his frustration out on you, have you mentioned to him how it’s affecting you? He may also benefit from some form of therapy to help him to manage his frustrations. You can give our Stroke Support Helpline:0303 3033 100 a call, they will also be able to help you to find some support for him.
Anna
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Thank you so much. Hes refused all types of therapy. X
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@Clairekirby1990 That’s a bit selfish. It shows they are not coping with whatever is going on in their lives and you are not there to take abuse. You either accept or do something about it. I wish you well for the future 
I am a stroke survivor of one and a half years.
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Hi thanks for the reply..
Its not selfish hes had brain injury.
Affected his emotions.
Its not all the time.
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Hi Claire, welcome to the stroke association and I’m sure you will find lots of support from everyone. I am sorry to hear of the difficulties you are facing with your partner, it must be very hard for you and your son. I know your partner will be going through lots of emotions at the moment and unfortunately this is coming back to you and your son. This is sadly a result of his stroke and it is difficult to understand how a stroke can change a person and their personality so quickly. I think you must seek and persist in trying to get more professional help and support for you and your partner. The Association has lots of helpful guides and you must take care of yourself too. It is important to remember this isnt his usual behaviour. It may take time and a lot of patience to get back to some normality, but strokes do so many different things to people and leave us with different problems and obstacles to overcome. I hope you will all find a solution however hard it is at the moment, keep trying. I am 19 months post stroke, but still get angry and frustrated that I cannot do the things I once did, but with time, we accept things and adapt to other ways of thinking and managing our life and coming to terms with the future. I wish you all well and hope you will all be able to accept the ways things are at the moment, learn to cope with the changes and work towards happier times. Stay positive 
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O wow thank you soo much for all of this.
Im finding this group to be very helpful so far.
Today’s a good day. Everyday is different
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Hi Claire
It’s good to know today is a better day. I am sure you will get more happier days in the future, but you will also have some hard ones too. I know how difficult it can be to watch someone change and not understand the reasons. A stroke strips us of so many everyday issues and our dignity too, but I hope your partner will realise and come to terms with the fact that (in a nice way), life goes on and we do manage to find the determination and ability to move forward and progress, even if it is a slow journey, but he will find his level and begin to heal. Take good care of each other.
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Thank you soo much for the lovely words x
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Hi @Clairekirby1990 and welcome to the forum. I’m sorry to hear how your partner is coping with his aphasia. He can certainly count himself lucky if that is the only effect he has come away with after his stroke. But it’s not an easy one at all, and yes, it can be extremely frustrating for him. Though he shouldn’t be taking his frustrations out on you and your son.
The good news is that these frustrations should settle down as he recovers more speech ability. I too had expressive dysphasia (aphasia) and still do, though I am 5 years post stroke and my aphasia is a lot milder now, most people don’t even realise I still have it.
The key is to keep sentences short and simple, certainly in early post stroke. We were in lock down when I had mine so there wasn’t much help to be had. My main practice was to spend time alone just reading out loud. In the first couple of weeks I was too embarrassed to even try speaking because of how I sounded.
My speech was very much garbled babble with just an odd word here and there that actually sounded like a word. The most frustrating part was knowing exactly what I wanted to say but the word formation just lost its way somewhere between the brain and the mouth.
But all that babble is good, its the start of learning to speak again and that’s exactly how we all started out as babies. As adults we have a distinct advantage over babies because we know what speech is all about. This in turn should bring it on that much earlier than babies. Does he have similar difficulties with reading and writing, they can have a tendency to go hand in hand?!
The more he practices his speech the easier it can get in the long run. Another 6 months could see him speaking clearer than he is right now. Do phone the Stroke Association helpline 03033033100 as they have local self help groups which he might benefit from. Or they may able to tell you of any other aphasia groups in your area.
These type of face to face groups are beneficial in boosting confidence in your speech because we all speak the same language so to speak 
The group I attend is an informal social group of mixed ages from young to old. We have various activities each month such as chair yoga, clock making, speakers in on tracing family history or Blood Bikes, Royal British Legion, and so on.
And it would do you good to pop along to a local stroke group, spouses and carers are very welcome too as you also need advice and support, you matter too!
Lorraine
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Thank you. Yes he cant read out loud as doesnt make sense yet.
Its only 5 months post stroke. So early days.
Can you notice your expressive dysplasia much ?
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@Clairekirby1990 I too and most on the forum had brain injury but I did not take out on my wife or children.My emotions were affected, but before my stroke i was a nice person and after even nicer. I am a survivor not a victim. What was he like before stoke?
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