Hello @Aylin - welcome to this community.
I echo all that has been said in response to your post. The journey you are on with your husband is unique to you and how it turns out is not something that is [easily] predictable. We can learn from others’ experiences and from what the experts tell and oftentimes, these are even then, just guidelines.
From my own experiences and as far as I know nothing is set in concrete but what we do know is recoveries are made and they are made when the time is right for them.
Having a positive frame of mind, taking time to think and digest information before making decisions might be a good way to go. There are no rights or wrongs per say, you just have to look at your own situation and then decide the course of action.
Your husband is opening his eyes and moving his hands, but from what you are saying he is not yet responsive. Again, to echo other posters, keep talking to your husband, let him know you are there, tell him you love him and that you are there for him. Keep giving encouragement and try to see if there any communication you can establish.
You may already have been given tips on this by the care team looking after your husband, but the fact he opens his eyes can give an opportunity to communicate by getting him to blink his eyes once for “yes” and twice for “no” etc. Asking him Yes/No questions and encouraging him to blink might be a start. I would suggest that you should not worry or despair or have any negative thoughts if he does not follow your instructions - in that case, reassure him it is OK and that he should not worry. This is important as he will get some reassurance from that.
Explain he may be tired and needs rest and allow him time to rest.
Another thing that I would like to mention is physical contact. Hold your husband’s hands, let him know you are there. Gently stroke his face and his hair. Stroking his face and hair might be very soothing for him and for you too Try gently massaging his feet and his arms.
You may have seen already someone mention “Stroke Recovery is a marathon and not a sprint”. This is absolutely true and as we all know that when the London marathon takes place each year, many hundreds of runners take part and we all know that the elite finish the race early and then the others follow at their own pace often taking many more hours to finish the race, long after the elite have finished theirs. At the end of the day they ALL finish the race but they all do it at their own pace - this is Stroke Survival in a Nutshell.
Be patient, remain positive, find out as much as you can from the care team. This will help you plan for the ongoing care.
Give yourself time, look after yourself.
Based on personal experience, I would say that not every piece of advice or information, no matter who is giving it, should be taken at face value. Just as an example, what I am sharing with you is based on my experiences and my beliefs and whilst it may work for me, it may not work for you. We are all different after all.
In the same way the marathon runners could not have been told how long it will take them to finish the race, how they will feel during and after the race, whether they will pick up any injuries during the race and how long it will take them to recover from the race, the same applies to stroke recovery
Wishing you and your husband all the best.
Namaste|
Please note:
Aylin posted an update the initial post which you can find here.