Hi my name is Mandy and my mum who is 79 had a stroke on Christmas Day it was a large bleed on the right side of her brain the consultant said it’s 50/50 but always no positive answers it’s gut wrenching I know my mum she will fight this The consultant has put on her file DNR
Please can you give me any information
@Mandy68 hi & welcome to the community. Sorry to hear of your mum’s stroke. It is still very early days for her yet & hopefully she is fighting hard to get through these initial days / weeks.
There are others on this forum whose relatives were told they might not pull through but are still here to tell the tale. Hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer support & advice.
I would advise you push the drs for answers to anything you want to know. You do have to push them hard sometimes.
You may want to call the Stroke Association helpline 0303 3033 100 who can offer advice & support.
Sending my very best wishes & positive thoughts.
Ann x
No prognosis can be made at this stage. After 10 days her blood-brain barrier repairs, and something called BDNF (brain ‘fertilizer’) is released to mop up and limit the damage. That’s when you can get an idea of where she will be. For instance, I got my speech back after a week.
Best wishes, Roland
Hi Mandy68. Welcome to this wonderful site who will be able to help and support you through this awful time in your life. We are all here.
Strokes hit us all in different ways and the recovery time takes as long as it takes. Some like myself recovered in a few days leaving me mostly tired anxious and a lack of confidence. Other stroke survivors can take a lot longer.
Let the nursing team and drs do there work. Talk to them and don’t be afraid to ask questions. The stroke ward I went on were absolutely fantastic and reassuring to me and my wife.
Thinking of you at this time in your life.
HI @Mandy68
Welcome to the community, I’m sorry to hear about your mums stroke.
As others have said it’s still early days so there’s every chance of improvement. As @Mrs5K has mentioned, calling our helpline would be an excellent place to start as they can give you more information about what should be happening during this time.
There are lots of people on here who have been through similar situations so please come back at any point and ask any questions you may have - there is a wealth of knowledge here.
I would also say, please make sure you’re looking after yourself too during this time.
If you need anything whilst you’re using the Online Community, please don’t hesitate to tag me using the @ symbol and my username.
Anna
Hello @Mandy68 - welcome to the community.
I echo everything that previous respondents have said and if it helps I have been through what you are going through and my Mum is still with us six years later and going strong. There is no reason why your Mum cannot do the same.
There you go - this is exactly how we felt and it happened. You know your Mum best and if you say she’s a fighter, she will fight and she will win 
As far as I am aware, the consultant cannot do this i.e. put DNR on your Mum’s file. She, your Mum has to want this to be the case. So unless your Mum has already stated on her medical record or to her GP that a DNR should apply in the event she becomes ill, this should no be for the consultant to do.
The consultant has to get consent from the patient or next of kin. This is my understanding and it is something we go through every time we take Mum to hospital. We are always asked if a DNR shoulf be placed and we say “No - she should have the same chance as everyone else”. So we have it on record as “Family did not consent”. They often try to talk you round by saying how it is not a pleasant thing and the process can be stressful for the patient and in Mum’s case her fragility may cause more damage and even if she makes it, her quality of life would be no good and so on. But we always say that should be her choice and not the doctors.
That said, it is my understanding that ultimately the doctors can over rule the family’s/patients decision if they deem it not to be in the best interests of the patient.
If you are not happy and believe your Mum would not consent to a DNR, ask for it to be removed and make it official i.e. make it clear that is what your Mum would want and what you are asking on her behalf.
Wishing you and your Mum all the best.
Namaste|
Thank you so much for information and taking time out to message me I really appreciate it