I just wanted to give a shout out to all the carers, friends, family & loved ones who do so much for us following our strokes. Having a stroke not only changes the life of the stroke survivor but can also be life changing for those that care for us. Carers can often be the forgotten ones & give up their time willingly to help us through.
18 months on from my stroke my husband still does so much for me (taking me to appointments, cooking, shopping etc) & without his help I’d be stuck. He’s had to reduce his working hours & often drops things at short notice to help me.
To all you carers out there thank you so much & please don’t forget to take time for yourself too. You definitely deserve it.
They are so wonderful, aren’t they? I hate that I can be so tiring to someone else, because they are picking up the things I am no longer doing, or at least not doing yet. And the patience they must have for my bad days, when I am annoyed or frustrated. I try to keep that to myself, but that means laying around somewhere out of the way, in turn, making them worry I am having another stroke, while I am really just trying to keep my mouth shut lest I say something regretful.
@Brendabuck i think carers do an amazing job & i’m sure we all appreciate what you do but forget to tell you sometimes. Without you all we would be in a pickle
Thanks @Mrs5K , it’s just been a difficult few weeks as we’ve all had flu at the same time. I’ve spent some time in the garden in the last couple of days, so that’s helped to pick me up a bit x
What lovely posts wish id get a thank you the social worker was right what she said in hospital you won’t be his wife you will be his carer im sorry all i do on here is moan i feel at rock bottom and all i can do is cry our world has been turned upside down not just his
@lynne_day923 it’s such hard work being a carer & its a role no-one usually chooses. As the stroke survivor i don’t think i thanked my hubby enough for everything he did & still does for me. I absolutely appreciate it all though even if I didn’t tell him at the time. I’ve made up for it lately.
It’s as hard, if not harder for the carers. You need to look after yourself too. My GP surgery do events for carers. Perhaps see if you can access something like that where you are. Or any local care groups…not necessarily for stroke care givers. Talking to people going through similar to you & sharing of ideas might help.
Sending you lots of love & hugs. Stay strong you’ve got this.
i’m sure there are times when he could cheerfully throttle me.
