Hello @rosr ,
Welcome to this forum. This forum is a good place to be for someone in your situation as you will likely get support and information pertinent to your needs.
I concur and echo what both @Bagrat and @Mrs5K say in their responses.
I further add, the hospital CANNOT tell your father that your mother will be discharged into his care.
Be absolutely clear, your Mum must not be discharged for home care until it is safe to do so i.e. the home is adapted to meet her care needs as appropriate.
All equipment is in place, e.g. hospital bed, hoists, care plan, carers etc. etc.
Create a checklist and make sure it is all ticked off.
My Mum was going to be discharged after a week or two - in the end she stayed in hospital for over 3 months before being “safely discharged” and even then there were issues - the home WASN’T ready but that’s another story for another day.
How did the hospital arrive at this conclusion?
Has your mother expressed a wish to be cared for at home e.g. in a LPA (lasting power of attorney) document?
Has you father said he will care for your mother at home?
In the event your mother does wish to be cared for at home, is the home “fit for purpose”? Does the home need to be adapted?
Who will pay for the care?
Myself, @EMG72 and various other regular contributors to this forum have been discussing this very situation recently and you may find it interesting to read.
Slow stream rehab + feeling gas lit by MDT.
I repeat, create a checklist and DO NOT AGREE to take your Mum home until it is safe to do so and your Father is happy he can care for her has her primary carer.
You may need to contact social services, your local MP and other support services. Hospitals cannot dictate to you (at least I don’t think they can).
Wishing you and your family a safe and managable outcome from this unfortunate situation.
Namaste|
