after 25 years i do not have a job…and trying to hold on been patience is becoming difficult…
please advise feeling too lost and messy… brain does not want to rest at all…
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Hello!
I lost my job after 23 years back in 2009. I worked in a specialist team that got disbanded and after so long I felt really frustrated and annoyed at what had happened, and very cheated knowing that my team had been the best of several teams and others kept their jobs when, my opinion only, they were less deserving of doing so.
It’s quite normal to feel anxious and upset so don’t think otherwise. Do you want to work again? If so, what other jobs are in your area? Can you retire or are you too young or in financial need of working? I think it is always wise to give yourself a little time to adjust, a few weeks so you can allow your frustrations to settle and look at what you want to do next. Don’t make hasty decisions but try and plan out what the next 6-12 months would ideally look like eg finding a new job, working on a qualification for a new job, travelling, early retirement… Whatever you choose, and try and tell your brain to chill, and that redundancy, whilst hurtful and upsetting, is also a new start.
You’ve got this!
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Hi @nadya , have you been offered support- from experience there is government backed help. The first few weeks if not months are overwhelming to say the least, it can be tough but talk to people, I was lucky and unlucky got a new job right away but unfortunately had to turn it down due to a hit and run accident. Now years later I look back and am happy ended up in a slightly different path which I have enjoyed most of.
Good luck with your future and talk to people ask questions then no doubt with all your transferable skills someone will only be to happy to employ you.
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Do you need a job? I went back to work after my stroke, part time, working from home. Then the company I was working for went bust. I now treat my recovery as my job. It’s a very important job; to me.
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Sorry to hear you’ve been made redundant. A lot to take in after 25 years and not something you want to deal woth I am sure.
I agree with @2Weevils take some time to reevaluate things and work out what you want/need to do work wise.
You never know in time it may turn out to be a good thing and something better is waiting around the corner for you.
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@nadya , I agree with @Mrs5K . Give yourself time to work things out. I’m in the same quandary, I’m a ex-carer of 30+yrs. Even I’m trying to work out what to do next with my life. 
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Thank you very for your kind support x
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Thank you so much for your kind reply. I’ve been working at the same place for the last 25 years, where I’ve had two different roles. Now, at 47, I have to create my CV for the first time, and applying for jobs has been extremely heartbreaking and overwhelming.
It has been almost two months now, and I really need to find a job, as I still have a mortgage to pay and my little one is going into his second year at university. I’m also a single mother, so there is a lot of pressure on me at the moment.
I used to think that if I ever got made redundant, I would spend some time travelling and studying. But now, instead, I’m trying to cut back on every possible expense so I can save as much money as I can. God knows when I’ll find another job and how quickly my redundancy package will run out. It’s a very worrying and uncertain time.
As it’s coming up to two months since my redundancy, I feel like my brain has completely forgotten what I used to do. When I read a job description, I just go completely blank. It’s as if I can’t remember my own skills and experience anymore.
Yes, I have faith, and I truly believe that there is something better written for me. But at the moment, my brain is just full of so much nonsense. I take medication, but my mind feels like a game of ping-pong — constantly going from one thought to another. It’s really difficult to focus and feel like myself.
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Reading, walking, watching films and painting used to be my hobbies, but now I can’t concentrate on anything… nothing at all.
I’m so thankful to this platform. I came back after so many years and received such lovely advice and support. I had a stroke in 2019, which left me with impaired vision and meant I lost my driving licence. It took me a long time to accept the “new me”, and now I feel like I have to learn to accept another new version of myself all over again.
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i am so sorry that you have been the victim of hit and run… no i am getting any help from goverment… and all of those departments give me awful anxiety.
Yes, I do need a job very badly. It has already been two months without one, and I’m extremely scared. I want to do something exciting and fresh, something different from what I’ve been doing for so many years. But, honestly, right now it feels hopeless.
I was so used to my safe cocoon, and my redundancy has suddenly taken that away from me. I know I need to step outside my comfort zone and start again, but after 25 years in the same place, it’s incredibly frightening.
30+years my God… you are too bold and smart x
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thank you very much i have replied to you but i think so i didn’t press this reply button. let me know if you can find…what have i come to ..no idea
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Hi @nadya , a bit of a broken back but in truth never has held me back, a few days of pain since recovery and changed my journey - looking back maybe for the batter as done more than ever since then.
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Hello.
No, I just got this latest reply, not an earlier one.
Really hope you find something soon @nadya it is a very worrying time for you.
Perhaps the job centre (or whatever they are called now) can help with your CV or you could try AI too.
I have been with the same employer for 30 years and I can’t imagine having to write me CV & start applying for jobs again.
Best of luck.
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Thank you so much for your kind reply. I’ve been working at the same place for the last 25 years, where I’ve had two different roles. Now, at 47, I have to create my CV for the first time, and applying for jobs has been extremely heartbreaking and overwhelming.
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i am so glad to read something positive. 
Thank you for your kind words. I have somehow managed to put my CV together with the help of my son. The Jobcentre only helps people who are on benefits. I visited it one day, and it was a very scary place. I didn’t like the atmosphere at all.
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I understand what you are saying. The jobs market is an ever-evolving creature, and I must confess that I no longer understand job descriptions nor the skills required to do those jobs. I see so many where a degree in some obscure subject is preferable to actual experience, and it makes me weep. I am grateful that I no longer have to apply for jobs, albeit that it would be impossible in our current situation.
Having been made redundant and then having had a nervous breakdown which cost em my second career, I would need to be 100% certain that i was stepping back into the right job for me, and whilst there are careers I would have liked to pursue, they are no longer an option. I wish you every success in your search and admire you greatly for doing so.
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