Hi everyone.
I’m struggling at the moment. At the end of June, our marriage was really bad so I flew to the UK to have a break. We’re both British but were living in Dubai.
Whilst on a break, he’s told me that he doesn’t feel the same about me anymore. I’m now stuck in the UK and I feel broken. The last three years have been the worst I didn’t still he would do this.
Does anyone have any tips on how to get over a divorce? I feel so down
Hi @Louise_W
I don’t know if I should post because I don’t have any first-hand experience. So I just typed your question into Google Which clearly you can do on your own
I did search through the forum and there are people like Rosamond that I know you’ve shared posts with who are in the same boat. Searching with the magnifying glass above ( EG for the keyword divorce and then looking at people’s profiles to see if they are still visitors to the site) will show you other users.
Google gave me a pretty clear idea that the first portal could be citizens advice bureau. There are quite a few legal companies advertising specialist services .
There are a couple of links emphasising the emotional side which tracks pretty much with the process for grief and post stroke trauma. That is denial anger bargaining acceptance moving on.
From work I’ve done in the past I know that each stage can be longer and shorter for different people but pretty much they have to be encountered in sequence and the sooner you embrace each step the sooner you move on. Straight after a stroke you could still be in one of denial anger bargaining (or shock anger resistance is the other way is often expressed to form the acronym Sarah shock anger resistance acceptance helping) from stroke.
I also googled divorce support groups and found a variety of formats but lots of support - I’m going to guess that you can find all the resources I’ve outlined but if you want to know what I found I’m happy to post links here
Hopefully others will respond with the thoughts of that I haven’t had and between all the suggestions of course of action well suggest itself to you.
Ciao
Simon
It’s not surprising that you feel down. You’ll come through this and when you do you’ll be a much stronger person. It happened to me (long before my stroke) and that’s what I found. So be sad, for a while, then get a plan together of what you’re going to do/need to do.
Well done for speaking up, it is never good to bottle up the bad stuff.
Can I suggest you contact the helpline?
Monday to Friday: 9 am to 5 pm
Saturday: 10 am to 1 pm
Sunday: Closed
We, on this Forum, are concerned for you and welcome anything you want to say.
Keep on keepin’ on
Thank you, that really helped
@Louise_W I’m not surprised you’re feeling a bit down. It’s hard enough when it’s expected but even harder if you weren’t really expecting it. Take time to be sad & upset & deal with each day as it comes. There’s no right or wrong way in these situations. You will find a way through it.
We’re all here for you if you need to reach out.
Sending my best wishes.
Ann xx
Thank you so much, I needed that