Thanks to everyone for your feedback and comments - these are much appreciated.
David - thank you for your feedback and kind offer to help. I would very much like to accept your offer as I am sure I would struggle to take this further.
The situation is not actually new inasmuch I have had problems with my social services provider from the first day I was unfortunate enough to need their services. They became involved with me when I was in hospital following my stroke and it was not something I had instigated. I expect it was part of the hospital/NHS procedure to involve them to “help” someone like me.
It seems they were asked to help so that the hospital bed I was occupying could be freed up. At no point did I ever get the feeling they were acting in my best interests. Please note, when I speak here and where I refer to myself, in most cases I mean “we” as in my family and me. Being unable to speak for myself it was my family who did my talking for me and this continues to this day.
My mental and physical condition has never been truly understood by the medical profession and they have not listened to us (my family and myself) when we have tried to explain things as they are rather than as they think or believe they are. As a result, I have never been afforded the care I needed/need and that which would have enabled me to better recover from this dreadful infliction.
The social services were very successful in their objective to help free the hospital bed. It did not matter that they helped to get me discharged from hospital to be cared for at home despite the fact the home had not been adapted for the care needs. They pressured my family into making decisions which were not necessarily in my best interests. As a result of their actions, I was effectively a prisoner in my own home, stuck in a room (cf prison cell) because the door was not wide enough to allow easy access. In fact, it purely by luck they were even able to get me into the room in the first place as there wasn’t enough room for manoeuvre.
To cut a long story short, the social services have never acted in the best interests of me, which unless I am mistaken, they surely should within reason as in I am not asking for a mansion or luxury equipped home, just a comfortable care environment in which I can be cared for. They have bullied and used veiled threats/scare mongering to keep my family at bay. In the end, we got so fed up with them, we wanted nothing to do with them as it was nothing more than a waste of time and energy whenever we had any dealings with them.
As a result of the shabby and unacceptable treatment I had in my early days post stroke, my family lodged a complaint. Not being savvy, they followed “council complaints” guidelines and the outcome was:
- no initial response
- following a chase up they responded they had investigated our complaint and there was no case to answer and if we wished to escalate we should follow the escalation instructions
They had effectively swept our complaint under the carpet.
The complaint was addressed to the social worker (responsible), her manager and some other manager who had been involved in a heated meeting we had with them about what was happening with Mum’s care.
It is our belief, they had used their own past experiences of how to deal with complaints to effectively kill off our complaint. This is based on the fact the complaint was sat on/ignored until chased up (so already if we had not followed up, the complaint would have been conveniently filed) and then how the escalation was effectively dismissed.
You will appreciate it is not easy to discuss this here on this forum and especially as I have not taken time to prepare for the case.
We have huge reservations about lodging another complaint about the last review, which clearly is deserving a complaint, if not for anything else, so that the social worker can be trained properly to do her job so that she cannot inflict such rubbish on other poor unsuspecting “citizens”.
David, if I may, I’d like to think about and discuss with my family how we feel about lodging a complaint. We are conscious this could take a lot of time and energy which don’t feel we have right now as my care needs are a huge drain on valuable resources.
I really appreciate your kind offer and I will definitely get back to you if we decide to go ahead.
Wrt to your request to include my case for use in the guidance for social workers on effective social work with stroke survivors, I am more than happy for you to use this and I can offer more as I feel very strongly about how pathetic social workers have been. I believe I am not alone in feeling this way and even if one person could be helped as a result of my case being used for illustration it would be worth it. I feel bad as I don’t like to judge and pigeon hole people as I don’t believe in that, especially I have been a victim so often e.g. agism etc. but I can’t help but think how bad social workers are (I am really sorry and I make an exception in your case as you have shown a real understanding and desire to do what a social worker should do).
Let us see if we can’t do things to improve the dire state of Adult Social Work 
Take care.