It's a lesson I'm learning.
I'm sure your father will come to terms with his aids and frames as he sees how they improve his life and help to get things done. My favourite when I was very immobile was a long handled shoe horn. I used it to help put my shoes on; as well reach stuff and scratch my back.
Hope things get easier soon.
Ikea sells extra long-handles shoe horns - they are excellent, and make fab back-scratchers because they have quite a sharp top end - perfect!! It means I don't have to stand in a doorway doing my Baloo-the-bear scratching technique ?
Hi Kay
hope today has been better. It’s a rollercoaster! Jx
It's good when you have the option of the Baloo technique. When you can't stand up your choices get reduced. I got my shoe horn off the internet via Amazon and had it delivered to me on the ward. As I didn't have anyone to do these things for me. I learnt to type on my phone with my left hand and got busy making things as good as they could be. I sorted a laundry service to get my clothes washed. Ordered said clothes. Lastly organised my armchair I needed once I was at home. As I didn't fit and suit the one in the furniture catalogue used by O.T. I was left to sort it myself. Thank God for smartphones xx
Not so bad. Especially with all the amazing support we get from everyone via this site. x
Nic,
it is so reassuring to read your post about experiencing bouts of anxiety, feeling low etc as I thought it was just me! I’m not SS and didn’t feel ‘entitled to’ isn’t that stupid? ?The tears would just bubble to the surface then subside. Coming onto this Forum was such an uplift for me realising that John and I were not alone. Our friends are great but the ones we see regularly are all fit and healthy. The tears incidents have subsided greatly now and the many words of wisdom, interspersed with daft Ballo type comments, from you and others, are a tonic.
Click, ,,,,,,,, the sun is shining here and one of my sisters is on her way hand-delivering her Christmas cards. As Colin would say, ttfn,
Veronica¡
Veronica,
You must believe that you're entitled to your tears just as much as an S.S. Even though you didn't suffer the stroke you are still grieving the loss of your old John. While supporting and caring for new John.
So glad you find the site helpful me too.
Have a lovely day! You deserve it.
Kay x
Thank you, Kay. I think I have been grieving for the old John.It seems that his recovery so far has been great compared to many of you on here. Yet he’s still a SS and restricted in that his life has changed. However, although he doesn’t read the posts, he follows what’s happening and identifies with many of the issues you all experience.
Part of my emotions have been tied up with grieving for our mother who left us two months before John’s Stroke. That is something I talked about with my sisters yesterday. She deteriorated over a six year period and many of us felt we hadn’t been able to cry because it was a long bereavement. Who knows? I now feel like I’ve turned a corner.
Letks Keep cheering each other up. Thank you. Veronica (and John-gardening again!)
Hi Veronica - it took me months to work out that I was grieving for a "loss", when the person is still with you it doesn't really hit home (well not in my case, I think I was too pre-occupied with day to day 'stuff'). I felt rather stupid when it finally hit me, why hadn't I worked this out? I now find that certain situations make me feel vulnerable, funerals set off the process again, ?. I avoided the funeral of a colleague because I just couldn't face the possiblilty that I would completely 'lose it'.
So we're all on a journey, whatever our situation, and we're all learning from each other, and benefitting from those respective experiences. I know this site can be a pain in the proverbial, but thank goodness for the lovely friends that populate it.
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Kay you have had to be so resourceful - I know you don't want anyone holding your hand, but wouldn't it be great if these things could be made easier, more accessible for folks when they're really struggling. There's always a sense that SS have been left to their own devices - very frustrating.
Hope you are enjoying a well-deserved rest in your chair ? I think I would struggle to find a suitable chair, I need a whole sofa!! I'm a bit of a 'nester' and need loads of room for laptop, books, coffee, vino, school work, snacks, etc etc I'm a nightmare!! Drives my husband mad ?he wonders how someone so little can take up SO much space ? (It's my only talent)
Spoke to the angel last night and this evening xx
Oh Nic, have you got a spy camera into my house? I have exactly the same sofa-desk, lol! Only difference is I no longer have school books. ?♀️ The joy of retirement. ?♂️
I've been modelling myself on you Veronica!! Next step retirement ?♀️
xx
Sooner rather than later! Hopefully!! Oh dear, just watching The House! Such bad behaviour on both sides. We wouldn’t tolerate that behaviour in our classrooms, would we?
We going to need more naughty steps!!
Ha ha! It’s embarrassing to think this is watched globally. You would think it was supposed to be a farce! Heaven help us. Where’s that angel?
I wonder if they ever watch themselves? Maybe they would behave differently ...
Your so kind. Must have worked last night as I slept well for me at 2 - 2.30 minutes sessions.
Like you and Veronica I have my chair and the space to one side. As I only have a relatively small space for the "junk" vital stuff. I have to keep it contained. As you say us S.S's and support team have to be resourceful. I was fortunate that I had the ability to do what I needed to. Which included shouting at the doctor who wanted to give me anticoagulant treatment before it was determined if I had a DVT. I had a haemorrhage type stroke so that type of medication is contra indicated. Good thing it was me and not some else.
Hope you're having a good evening! xx
Thank goodness you were able to voice your concerns - it is scary how easily mistakes are made, the very person you should be able to trust - a close shave.
Have just chomped my way through a toffee crisp, so it's not a bad evening!! Now just got to write a Christmas quiz ??
I love my tiny angel, with a big heart, hope she'll watch over you tonight xx
??then ?? watching the goons in The House. Hey, glad your sofa is like ours. We must set up a special messy sofa group! ??
that was a scary incident, Kay. Good job you realised what was happening.
Thank you!?
Is there no end to your skills. Mary Berry's stunt double, ? next year's Strictly contestant? and contributor extraordinary to this site. ?? Now devising Christmas quizzes. Good luck! I can sometimes answer quizzes and crossword puzzles and then someone says how to spell that. Then it becomes a case of Bob Hope and no hope. ?