Hello MaryKate - What’s going on?
Let’s go back a bit and see if we can’t get any clues as to what might be happening.
Firstly, you and your husband were booked to go on a coach holiday for a week.
How did that go? I hope you were able to go and enjoy it.
Secondly, post your TIA diagnosis, you were having problems with acid reflux. Did you get this sorted because if not this might be part of the problem of struggles to eat food.
Trapped wind and acid reflux may be the problems you need sorting and you should be able to get help from your GP or better still speak with your local pharmacist.
If you are worried about your kidneys, your GP can arrange for a blood test to check this out.
Doctors are only humans like you and me and they are nothing to be frightened off. Don’t worry about hospitals just yet. There is is noting to suggest you need to go to hospital right now.
If you and your husband are struggling to manage, you may be able to get help from Age UK or maybe some local carer groups who may have volunteers who can help with shopping and cleaning etc. Also, as others have suggested you might be able to shop online.
Hubby wants to help, so help him to help you. He is not refusing to help, but he may not know how. So I am sure if you explain how he can help you and what he can do, he will do it.
Being vegetarian in the modern word is not at all difficult. There are plenty of foods you can eat and be perfectly healthy. If you wish to eat fish, that is your choice. No one can tell you what you can or cannot eat - only your body will tell you. For example, if your body is unable to tolerate certain foods you will know as you will become uncomfortable e.g. your trapped wind.
Wrt trapped wind, one of the causes is insufficient physical activity movement. Unless you are physically unable to do this, you should walk and move about during the day and this will be a huge help to you.
You can get various remedies to help with trapped wind, both herbal and medicinal.
I don’t think you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, in fact I don’t think you are stuck at all. You just need to talk to your GP, get yourself tested and then move on from there.
Help is available, you need to ask.
Friends - I make friends very easily. Just talk to people when you are out and about. Talk to the cashiers in the shop, talk to fellow shoppers, talk to your neighbours.
You don’t have to wait for things to happen - you can make them happen.
Two days ago, I was on my way to hospital and one of the ladies in my neighbourhood was filling her brown bin with plant cuttings and weeds etc. She was actually standing in the bin and crushing them. I just stopped and said Hello and asked what she was doing.
She didn’t mind and so I suggested she might want to make compost out of this rather than bin it and so we started talking. From a simple “Hello” I spent nearly an hour talking to her and we talked about all sorts of things. She even invited me to go bowling (lawn green) at her club. Just from me stopping to say “Hello”.
Now, I’m not suggesting it’s always like this. Sometimes the person might not want to engage. In that case you have lost nothing by saying “Hello” and even then you will feel good about yourself because you said “Hello”.
You say you don’t have friends - I think you might have more friends than you realise 
None of this talk of being between a rack and a hard place if you don’t mind.
Have a lovely day
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