Should you read this post or iron your socks?

It took me a long time to make a decision about writing this post, so much so I suffered planning paralysis as a result and the post sat idle in a draft for many months. Today, however, I have decided to go ahead with it. It is about neuro-fatigue, decision making. It is something that I often overlook; time thinking about what I ought to do, what steps I need to take to do it and then the burden of actioning that decision. Indeed, decision fatigue affects anybody, but for a stroke survivor it can make the difference between functioning and floundering.

The brain uses an inordinate amount of resources just to make decisions, the prefrontal cortex works overtime to decide what suitable attire to wear if outside threatens four seasons for the day and then the networks become less cooperative and one might as well not go out.

Trying to decide where to put that unwanted gift that you can’t use, return or throw away can bank up levels of glutamate which inevitably will tell the brain to just shut down and shove it in the bottomless drawer of forgetfulness.

As you deliberate over the hundred and one foodstuffs on a Chinese takeaway menu, your brain is burning glucose like nobodies business and in the end it might just be more relaxing to opt for fish and chips.

Decision fatigue leads to planning paralysis, where the brain concludes that it is just all too much and it might be more pleasurable just to kick back and gaze at that painting of a navel that was purchased for such occasions.

Having had four bumps to my cerebellum, I have come to learn that the cerebellum is integral to decision making and has a direct line to the prefrontal cortex which is the brain’s executive suite for executive decisions. Ironically, it also can affect one’s impulse control. Still, if I go to a restaurant I know exactly what I want to eat and my brain can decide within minutes, whereas my partner takes a long time to decide on a dish and then wants to eat mine because her meal isn’t what she fancied after all. On top of brain damage, decision fatigue clearly uses up vital brain vitality and it is something stroke survivors can work around to improve their overall cognitive energy reserves.

One of the primary fatigues I suffer is searching for something if I need it to complete a task. Racking my brain as to where it could be and then the thought of having to search means that, more often or not, the task gets left undone. I am unduly strict now about where things belong. Everything has its logical place for me, and woe betide the person who doesn’t put it back in its proper place. I’m over the top about it for a reason, if I go to get something and it isn’t there, my brain energy can fizzle at an alarming rate. It doesn’t have the capacity anymore to indulge itself with instant make-do decisions.

The ‘that’ll do’ principle. When I was a child I had acute OCD and spent some time in therapy, making my life easier. After stroke, damage to my cerebellum has disrupted the work I put in as a kid to control this compulsive behaviour. The cerebellum plays a role in helping to curb repetitive behaviours and thoughts. I’ve had to reinvest in the ‘that’ll do’ principle which means being satisfied with my limitations and letting go of intended outcomes. As an example, because of my visual issues, I find it difficult to wash up effectively. More often than not, after the dishes dry, there is always some food stain or other attached to a plate, bowl or cutlery. I find washing up difficult because of the range of movement, standing and the motion of the water. However, when putting away the dishes (my least favourite task), I apply the ‘that’ll do’ principle. I have no more mental energy to commit to the dishes. They are basically clean, and that’ll do.

I find that rest is hit and miss, but distraction can do wonders to elevate a strained brain. Doing something, suddenly, that is completely different can effectively shift the gears in the brain enough to then be able to return to the original task with renewed vigour. These distractions are mindful distractions, they entail using tactile, olfactory or visual activities to allow senses to relieve brain stress. Visual for me isn’t always the answer as I am visually challenged but sometimes I might pick up something and give it a good smell or play around with it and it conveniently pauses the synapses from short-circuiting. As I have a cat, I often spend time, scrunching up pieces of paper and tossing them away so that she can go fetch. I do this between managing daily tasks, and after twenty minutes or so of entertaining and exhausting Annie, I am ready to resume whatever tedious task I must attend to as a mere human.

Taking the easy way out. The brain is notoriously lazy, that’s why technology like AI has been such a significant step in our evolutionary toolkit. Using AI can efficiently bypass the steps once needed to collate and summarise information, and it uses sycophancy to prioritise engagement and mimic empathy. This rewards our brains with a big gloop of dopamine to make us feel validated. In the past we had to search through and glean over countless webpages to find relevant information, this using vital brain energy, and before that flicking through countless pages of books. As a stroke survivor, leaning on tools or technology that short cuts the process is saving brain energy for other cognitive tasks. I enjoy playing records but the fact of the matter is that my brain, more often than not, defaults to calling out a track for my smart speaker to play as opposed to hunting down a track on one of my records to put on.

Good old procedural memory. Deep within the motor cortex via the cerebellum and basal ganglia lies our procedural memory. This is memory from practised, accomplished and familiar tasks. Turning to procedural memory to reset the brain is tremendously satisfying and it’s not just things like riding a bicycle or using a pogo stick. It can be things like listening to a familiar piece of music, procedural memory kicks in when we follow the rhythms and melody. It might be something you did countless times as a kid; playing with a yo-yo or doodling. I’ve gardened for most of my life, when I garden my procedural memory kicks in and most of the activity is done on auto-pilot. I often watch childhood television shows for the hundredth time on DVD or streaming services because I am so familiar with them that my brain enters into a sort transcendental state, as with some films I’ve watched and rewatched many times. My brain doesn’t have to do much work, it’s all been done before and logged into the motor cortex. Having several activities that can rely on procedural memory is a brilliant way to give the brain a break and reset its energy capacity.

So these are just some of the things we can do to cut down on cognitive consumption. Next post I think I will write about planning paralysis which is a result of decision fatigue but there are ways to get on top of it or at least manage it and I feel by doing so I will overcome my planning paralysis.

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Great title to the post :slightly_smiling_face:

I totally get what you’re saying. I had a different type of stroke but a lot of affects are similar in a different way. I find anything I have to concentrate on for more than a couple of minutes is exhausting & definitely feeds the neuro fatigue. For example meeting at work. Thinking on my feet is definitely much harder but with things that were very familiar pre stroke do tend to come much easier.

I am guilty of the lazy option at times. I use AI, with caution to make things easier and I also adopt thejust enough is good enough approach in some things.

I do have some OCD tendencies though and fins them a bit harder to let go of.

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Diolch, you have just reminded me of another point I need to add to the post.

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I decided to read your post as I never iron my socks.

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Do you not feel embarrassed that you are wearing wrinkly, creased socks?

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I am very proud to walk around in my creased socks, as well as my creased pants. I’ve never understood why people iron their undies. :smiley:

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I never do any ironing ever…I buy things that will not require ironing, leggings , Dr Martens etc… however I identify with most of what you mention in you post Rups, albeit in a lesser intensity perhaps, , for example I will make a piece of toast, wander through the house to do something, put it down somewhere and forget where it is. I then have to get to it first before the dog does. Since my cerebellum stroke I am very strict with myself about putting the food down on a high bookshelf but then where?? My decision making I now find is dependent on how fatigued I feel when I get up…having planned to go to a book festival and paid for the tickets I was too tired to go on the day…bummer… I am teaching myself acceptance of all this malarky dear Grasshopper…

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And oh yes re procedural brain …since my stroke I too have found solace in watching repeats. I have been through all 11 series of “The Walking Dead” 3 times (Negan is the most terrifying villain ever portrayed) The Sopranos twice, Vikings twice … oh and Game of Thrones which I hadn’t actually seen before altho I read the first book. My sister says my taste is appalling, she wouldn’t have this stuff on in her house and why don’t I watch DowntonAbbey…each to their own I guess. The point is familiarity and I can often multi task with familiar stuff in the background…I don’t know if other stroke peoples find this…or maybe I have always been this way.? At Uni friends used to ask me to do their essays for them whilst in the bar cos I cld do two things at once. Life is strange…i meander again…sorry!!

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How do you cope with crumpled hankies?

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I recently rewatched the entire series and found it immensely enjoyable to revisit it again.

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Tissues are better than hankies, and don’t need ironing. I have never ironed a sock, and now I can’t iron anything.

I wish I could cure my husband of wandering around the house with food. Put it on a plate and sit at a table with it, and the problem goes away. Dogs can be very helpful with this training, but we no longer have any.

I bet you are glad you aren’t married to me!

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Sock it to 'em @Rups !!

keep on keepin on
:writing_hand: :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes: :+1:

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All my important decisions are made outside earthed. Without the confines of four walls : indoor environments accumulate “stale energy,” mental clutter, and overstimulation from technology and artificial lighting. Bare feet on the earth aligns your body’s natural rhythms with the planet’s electromagnetic field, which in turn clears mental fog and allows decisions to arise from a calmer, more intuitive place.

Indoors, your brain is processing multiple artificial stimuli: corners, walls, screens, clutter, lighting choices, furniture arrangement. Outdoors, especially in a natural setting like a park or garden, the environment is “softly fascinating” (a term from attention restoration theory). This allows your brain’s directed attention to rest, freeing up cognitive bandwidth for the actual decision.

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Yes my crumpled Kleenex with Aloe Vera go in the bin. Of course non strokers derive pleasure from watching films/tv too, so it’s one to do with brain and hormones dopamine etc. I wld imagine ironing can give the same soothing effect..I didn’t watch that much TV before but since, it’s been a godsend. Prob cos I am alone/isolated as well and it gives me a window on the world. I do try to commune with nature too and would try Pando’s earthing but I find when I am out, I am concentrating on staying upright/balance and it can wear me out. All these brain things that go on in your head after stroke eh! Who Knew!!! (Gonna give GOT a second watch too)

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Do you mean as a hoover?

And I bet you are glad you aren’t married to me, I sometimes sit in bed and eat. :joy:

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The sock it to 'em is afoot, and I feel it may just be a too much of a feat, so perhaps I should just put a sock in it before I get towed away for making a heel of myself.

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All my important decisions are usually made in the bath but I do find the activity of gardening allows my brain to commit more energy to thinking about other stuff.

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I have lived most of my life this way. I couldn’t live in a city. Plants are part of my mostly solitary friendship circle. :evergreen_tree::shamrock::four_leaf_clover::evergreen_tree:

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Whats a lovely post and some rather interesting responses :slight_smile:

I haven’t ironed anything in at least over 10 years and possibly as many as 20 years or more.

Earthing on a lawn is not an option as I live in the concrete jungle and the nearest recreation ground is a little too far for my liking though I have walked barefoot around the football pitch on said recreational ground when I last visited. I am toying with the ideas of crown green (aka lawn) bowling though I don’t know if they would allow me to bowl barefooted. I could try.

I am afraid I do add to environmental issues by using paper tissues instead of handkerchiefs and have done so for many years, though I have done my bit by recycling cups, tins etc. for well over 40 years and way before it may have become fashionable. Indeed, I had a can crusher hung on the wall so I could crush the cans to reduce their size for the recycling bin and had to take them to recycling points before the local council started collecting recyleables.

I read these posts whether or not I iron, bathe, earth etc.

I can’t remember whether it is in this post or another post when indecision or leaving it to the last minute was/is discussed but I have for many years developed a [very] bad habit of doing things at the [very] last minute or as late as possible, maybe even later. This habit was developed when I went to college and for some reason it has stayed with me ever since. I call it or I believe it is procrastination, though that was not the term used in the discussion I read on this forum.

In fact, I am not sure if procrastination is the reason why I am now talking about procrastination on this thread rather than the original thread if indeed there was another thread on which it was discussed.

Unfortunately for me it has been the opposite, though I had intended to leave the concrete jungle for a place out in the sticks but alas, that remains as at noe a pipe dream.

I thank you :slight_smile:

:pray:

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Be careful if you eat Jaffa cakes in bed…, can give you a nasty stain shock if you lie on them all night and wake up not realising it’s only chocolate!!

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