Dear Lily,
You are just over my own daughters’ ages at 35 and 38. It was so very hard on them to know what to do and navigating around my care and that of my grandson, the pets, the house, jobs, and their own fears and sadness.
I could not move my body, some from strokes, some from sedation. Sedation was honestly wonderful. I could hear and understand the people around me, but could not respond. I also had some very lovely ‘hallucinations’ to keep me entertained. They did seem quite real at the time. I think most of these occurences were in coming out of sedation. It did take at least a few days because they wondered if I was actually aware of anything on my own. My brother was on the phone with my sister who relayed the story… A longstanding family feud (in fun) between he and I. I was able to respond to him in my usual way, which was a rude hand gesture. That was when they knew I could in fact move my hand some and that I understood.
My sisters took turns staying with me after that, to try to understand my grunts and gestures and tell me to use eyes to blink twice for no, three times for yes. When I was able, I would squeeze their hands 3 times for I love you, but they thought it was to say yes for no reason. LOL.
In the US, even during Covid, I was allowed 2 visitors per day, without limit on the number of hours, so my 4 sisters and 2 daughters took turns- one in the morning and afternoon, one evening into night, So for awhile there was someone with me 8 to 12 hours per day. Mostly I slept, likely very nice for them!
For your mom, her biggest worry will be you and your brother, the home and bills. She will just be wanting to help you. I can be almost sure of it.
Allow mom to rest as much as possible as well, and give her encouragement whether you think she is aware of now. Take care of yourself, if not for you, then for her. She will know if you aren’t and it will worry her further. It is fine for you to cry in front of her, and for her to cry in front of you. She knows this is scary for all. She will probably try not to cry in front of you because she’s the mom who generally thinks she must stay strong in front of you.
Bless you for looking for help for your mom at this very early stage. That can be a huge help to her and hopefully to you.