@ManjiB We did something similar by shielding Mum from too many visitors, keeping to very tight to immediate family and very close friends. Our reason for doing was that we didn’t want well meaning people saying things that Mum might not appreciate. Mum is a positive person and her glass is always half full, so we didn’t want people coming feeling sorry for her etc.
This is so true as some people just come to look. stare. This would of set your mum back. A lot of people should take a page from your book as you have a lot of good sensible advice to share Have a great day
Thanks Irene - We’ve read the book and got the t-shirts.
Now we are writing our own book
This book may help some and it may upset others as evidenced on this forum.
If just one person benefits from Mum’s experiences, or indeed mine and my sister’s as carers, it is reward enough
This makes me wonder what state of mind your Mum is in.
I wonder if she has shared her thoughts with you or your Dad.
She seems “sensitive” to things that are said e.g.
She also seems to be seeking assurance from the healthcare professionals, and not willing to accept it when you suggest she can walk again. I wonder why that might be so and this would also make me worry a little because going by our experience, healthcare professionals in general seem reluctant to say how much and how soon as person will recover. Also, I have heard it said often that “Recovery happens in the early days and there is no recovery after six months”. This is total nonsense but if a healthcare professional was to say this to your Mum, I wonder if she would simply give up?
In the end, it is my belief that it is up to your Mum to motivate herself to recover. She has got to want to recover and she decides how much recovery she would like. At 66, she has got her while retired life ahead of her and if she wants to enjoy her retirement, and there is no reason why she cannot, she needs to think about what she wants so you can try and get the help she would need.
Have a great day 
