Hi @fish4lou, I hope you and your husband are keeping well.
I’ve heard back from our Helpline who passed across these two organisations/resources:
Choice Support
Their website provides very detailed information on disability and sex, they also have a list of useful resources at the end of the webpage below including one on ‘top sex toys for disabled users’.
There’s also SHADA (Sexual Health and Disability Alliance) who run a Sex and Disability Helpline (07900 957 393 11am-7pm weekdays) which might be useful for them to contact:
https://shada.org.uk/sex-disability-info/
The woman I spoke to also invited you to give the Helpline a call if you needed or wanted a space to talk things through. Their number is 0303 3033 100.
I hope this helps,
Ashley