# Just need to chat

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**Created:** [21 September 2026 10:53 UTC](https://onlinecommunity.stroke.org.uk/t/just-need-to-chat/47452 "2026-09-21T10:53:41Z")\
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**Author:** ![Mrs5K](https://onlinecommunity.stroke.org.uk/user_avatar/onlinecommunity.stroke.org.uk/mrs5k/32/396_2.png) [@Mrs5K](https://onlinecommunity.stroke.org.uk/u/Mrs5K)\
**Post date:** [21 September 2026 15:13 UTC](https://onlinecommunity.stroke.org.uk/t/just-need-to-chat/47452/2 "2026-09-21T15:13:39Z")

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Hi & welcome to the community @MrsE sorry to hear of your mum’s stroke & the situation you find yourself in.

I can imagine you are in a lot of confusion at the moment and not really sure which way to turn.

I have copied in a couple of links to posts from people who have been in a similar situation to you. There may be some useful advice contained in them.

> [@Ex husband had a massive stroke. Please help](https://onlinecommunity.stroke.org.uk/t/ex-husband-had-a-massive-stroke-please-help/47421):
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> Hi all. This is my first post. I hope it’s in the right place. My ex husband had an ischaemic stroke which converted to a haemorrhagic stroke. He then had a craniotomy. This was 6 weeks ago His sister who he is not particularly close to, took over as nok and I only found all of the above out 8 hours before he had the craniotomy. She asked did I know what his wishes were before the craniotomy and I advised I did and she chose to ignore them anyway. It’s has been 6 weeks and my ex husband is …

> [@New member- end of life decisions](https://onlinecommunity.stroke.org.uk/t/new-member-end-of-life-decisions/47026/3):
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> Thank you so much for your quick response and for tagging someone in, we massively appreciate any advice right now and kind words xxx

One thing I would say is you don’t need to make any decisions you’re not comfortable with right now. Give yourselves more time if that’s what you need. Hopefully you have an idea of your mum’s wishes in relation to her health but if not you know your mum well enough to have an idea I suspect.

If 2 consultants are saying different things that’s a good enough reason, in my opjnion, to ask for more time to see how your mum does. She may well start to improve.

Sending you strength & best wishes

Ann

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