It’s hard work but I think that you are right about cutting the dead wood out of my life. I am glad (and sad) that someone else has had an experience similar to mine. I hope that things are improving for you. Thank you for the advice xx
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Thank you sooo much Neddy. It’s awful that people see kindness as a weakness. I agree that there are some wonderful people on here. I hope that you are recovering well and that life is treating you well
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They say the Finns are the happiest people in the world. I have no idea how they got that accolade. I have been twice now and I have never met a happy Finn! My son was brilliant, so loving and caring before he went there. I think they must have some form of brainwashing there because he has changed so much. I want my son back and with the personality he used to have but I realise that it is just a pipe dream
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Cordelia.
you’re very welcome and always here as of many others.
speedy recovery and good health 
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I agree that she sounds toxic.
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Thank you for that, I wish you any others who are suffering, and I mean suffering, after a stroke health and peace especially within your friends and family
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She is toxic as she has poisoned my son. I have so much love to give her but she spurns it totally
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What a shame you deleted this post. I feel others would have benefitted from reading it. You hit the nail on the head so many times there. “You can’t tell you have had a stroke” is the most annoying comment in the world. No, I have regained most of my physical functions but as for my brain? Nowhere near recovered. Emotionally quite unstable and can cry at the drop of a hat but also I get cross sometimes and shout which I never did before. I am learning to restrain the shouting bit by bit. I didn’t shout when I was over there but I will admit that I called her a “bitch” and my son made me apologise to her.
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My names Joanne, I’m fuming for you Cordelia, how rude and heartless is she I had a person say to me how are you and I tried to tell her how debilitating having a stroke is and her reply was oh I thought you just have a stroke and get over it I just walked away as I was so angry. Us stroke survivors shouldn’t be made to feel like this as we have come a long way so go away you horrid woman sorry I had to say that but it makes my blood boil. take care don’t let them get to you your here to tell your story and that’s all that matter. 3 years today I had my stroke it’s hard but you learn to do what you can and if you can’t do it leave it
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I can feel your furious and pain but I am going be praying for you ok 
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That is very sweet of you xx
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Hi Cordelia
Im really sorry about your husbands cancer and your stroke and im sorry to hear about your family issues, they do not seem to compute and ‘i know’ it becomes very upsetting and frustrating. The most important to remember to keep your chin up, keep people who take their time to get to know you close, whether they do or dont understand, know they care about you. If you are able, just remember to pay them back, for example; Slowly build a plan of action to do house chores, eating and stuff and ‘write’ it down in a calendar or similar. You will find ‘now’ that this is where you will have to get started from everyday. Set alarms on your phone when to take/ get prescriptions, for Doctors appointments, shopping and other important for your husband and you. Then set an alarm everyday to get out there with husband and go for a walk, starting slow, and build. Or weather permitting, stay at home and do some Holden QiGong (youtube) all mentioned above abit weird i’m sure yet can be fun. The reminder is; normal now stroke.
This is what people mean by looking after yourself and extremely good for you and the people who care about you, care about around you. The others… well i’ll write about that if they come right.
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I learned taking only one day at time