Hi ?, how are you? I live in Devon, sadly my husband passed away last year, we were married for 30 years, iim still raw from that, and of course my stroke, which was in March. Im slowly regaining confidence, but still sometimes don't feel like "me", do we ever get back to that feeling do you think, or just adapt? The hospital have been great, someone from stroke unit rings me every now and then, and also I can ring them if I need to. As for survivors around me, I have spoken to quite a few people who can associate with how it all feels, either through them having a stroke or a family member. Ive got a list of groups if I want to meet up, I'm not sure at the mo, they aren't that near to me, and with being a bit panicky ( getting better tho) doing things slowly, simple things like getting the bus sort of makes me nervous, this is why I don't feel like I used to. . Im an outgoing person, positive, she's still in here somewhere! Lol ?.. How are you getting on? Do you havehave family around? Ive 2 sons aged 30 and 37, one lives 20 miles away, the other in Liverpool, both married, I know they are there for me, but I'm so damn independent, or try to be!
Hope life is good for you and yours, and you are coping, we plod on, lol ?
Thanks for your message, :))
Caroline
Caroline thank you for replying, My name is Stephen i am 64yo and i live in Suffolk with my partner Paula we have been together for 14yrs, I was a lorry driver for 46yrs until i had my stroke so i lost my lorry licence but got my car licence back. I had my stroke in November 2017 and regained most of my body but i cannot use my right hand and wrist which is lucky because i am left handed.You sound like you are a strong willed lady so i know you will get that (ME) feeling back sooner than you think.
Yes i am coping and life is ok, Please keep in touch and hope to hear from you again
All the best Stephen
Hi Tallulah
I was on Amlopodine from leaving hospital and also Clopidogrel. I have had to come off both as they both gave me severe side effects. I am now on Accupro for BP and aspirin and this works good for me. Some medications do cause anxiety so might be worth trying a few different ones so you find one that suits you and not your GP ;)
I am so sorry that you lost your husband. Obviously you are greiving for him and this will take time. As you were his carer too, you will find time to yourself that you aren't used to having so it will feel strange and a bit lost. Added to this, having a stroke also makes you grieve. It's a different sort of grief as you are grieving for the person you were and want to be back to being 'you'. This is all perfectly normal but you are a new 'you' now and grieving for the old you will pass in time. I hated the new me after my stroke. It was like I had another 'me' sat on my shoulder all the time. I wanted to do things but the stroke 'Me' wouldn't let me but eventually, I grew fond of the new me and we rub along very well now! She can be a pain in the backside on some days but if she plays up and wears me out, I know it's only her way of warning me that I'm doing too much.
Hope that helps