Hi there! Thanks for responding! Huge respect to you, being an independent lady and then finding your Mr Right! Fab! Honestly, I reckon I've already met mine = Billy. Now, he's gone.............guess I'll be alone now.
You won't believe this, but pre-lockdown, I DID go to the gym weekly. Am only doing weights at home, due to the coronavirus shutdown! I also go to the cafe at the supermarket for breakfast once or twice a week! Not to find a bloke, merely to either keep fit, or get food haha! Am at the point, if I meet someone = OK. If not, that's OK too!
Love that someone is missing out on ME!! Look but don't touch boys, unless I say so! Love that I'm in control of myself. Deep down, I'm sad but try not to think about my situation, or lack thereof haha! Thanks. xx
I'm missing my gym loads too. I'm doing dumbells at home but it's not the same as the machine weights. They keep in touch weekly with exercise videos to do and to update on the latest to happen. They have redecorated, refurbished the reception and updated some of the equipment so can't wait to get back. I'm a regular in Sainsburys cafe, Morrisons cafe, M & S cafe and my favourite... Dunelm. God, I miss Dunelm! I've got to know all the regulars in all of the cafes. It tends to be the same people all in at the same time which is nice for a quick natter.
Know what you mean, miss the gym and company A LOT! Know I'm not alone........Sounds like it will be lovely, when you return!
Forgot to say, had my first holiday alone booked to The Cairngorms for this April. Obviously, it was cancelled but I got my money back, as had paid in full! Good that you enjoy the cafes too, but sorry you miss Dunelm! Like it there too.
Didn't mean to sound negative. Am not at all, am a very happy person, and have lots of good friends. Thankfully! Dinner ready, must dash!
I bought my first ipad four weeks ago, at the start of our confinemnt.
I got the Apple ipad. Beautiful screen, and ever so clever, but I reall dont get much out of it. And it is very hard to understand how to use it. You need someones help
I use it as a Kindle type thing and its good for that. I look at BBC news and thats OK. I look up stuff on the internet and thats good, An ipad is so much faster to load than my trusty desk top.
I want to use it for muusic, but I willl need bluetooth speakers.
You do of course need good wifi internet connection.
And you will need to learn a new language, Its apps and not software
its swipe and not click. And its compulsory to say how easy it is to use and ipad. It most certainly is not.
Plus point: Apple has facetime which is very smart, but you need to have someone else with an apple to join you. I havent seen my London house or over 4 years, My son lives there. He walked around the house, using face time, and I saw my house again. So many memories to recover.
I am touched that you should ask my opinion on such things.
My number one advice is to just be yourself.
If Billy dominates your affections then just let that be the case.
Too late for babies of your own but there is a great need for reliable aunty. And many other cases wherein you could deal with children. I help out at the "Bumps and Babies". I dont stay throughout the sessions but I set up the chairs etc, get the place warm, and pass the time of day to anyone who arrives early.
I like to do this, so I do it ! I started to look after vulnerable adults (Learning difficulties). You need a certificate but thats just paperwork. Again, I liked helping them. Stroke ruined that one and now their home has closed. But my point is to do what you want to do.
I help at a fortnightly event that invites anyone for cake and coffee. Its actually a huge gossip machine. As many as 100 turn up.And a way to meet other villagers. And if you do such things then you are likely to meet someone with your own interests. If thats just a male friend then fine, if it goes further then even more fine. I think the trick is to enjoy the events and not expect to meet Mr Right. Enjoy the company, make friends and see where things go.
My good friend, Duncan, helped me set up last time, and will again when I get the iPad. He hates Apple, and prefers HP, which my current laptop is. My next iPad will probably be too. I know it will take a lot of getting used to, but Duncan showed me about this, and it was very odd to begin with to me. However, I 'mastered' it quickly. Am not at all technical, and only need to know the basics. How to email, look up websites, order from Amazon etc and write/store my poetry. I watch movies on my smart TV - Netflix or iplayer.
Great that your son showed you around your London home. It's brilliant in that respect. I can't get one until I see Duncan again, and go to a store, as he says it's best to 'try before you buy'! Thanks again. Peace Carole
You are a nice friend, as you all are, and I trusted you/everyone with such a sensitive issue.
Agree, as I said, have a good male friend. We don't fancy each other, as have spoken about it, but my disability doesn't bother him, and we are very close. Been pals since 2008. Have lots of good friends, mainly in Yorkshire where I lived when I collapsed. Worked beside many. Some stuck by me, still do and I'll never forget that. Have great friends up here too, old schoolfriends mainly.
Well done you wow! Indeed, have done lots of voluntary work and/or courses. I meet lots of people, and am popular. I just prefer my solace and dreaming about Billy, as I work at home. Thought I was strange, but I am just being myself haha! If people don't like me, sod off! Thanks heaps. Rock on Carole
Hi Space Cadet ? just want to poke my sticky beak in, and mention that some of my friends with wonderful relationships, met in the most unusual circumstances. When you least expect it, someone comes along, who may rock your world (in a good way!!). So you just never know. Having friends is THE most important thing, and these crazy days are living proof of the power of friendship. Enjoy your friends, love and respect yourself, and one day you will meet that special person. Billy might even send someone your way ... ?
Hi there NicABella21! Thank you sooo much! Am content in my life, with many good friends (both in real life or online!). True, Billy MIGHT send someone my way. If not, I don't think it'll bother me - too much haha! Miss cuddles though. Yes, I do respect myself, as others do. C'est la vie! You too, stay well. Thanks again. Peace Carole
So many couples break up after stroke. The year of my stroke. 2015, statistics said 65% of couples broke up after stroke. Ouch. I can understand that because we are not the same people. Well certainly I am not. On the other side of that coin, I have come across a good friend who married after stroke. And they are very very happy and "sound". Her husband accepts her as she is now. And he is marvellously thoughtful towards her.
Another thought. I find it weird to keep six feet away when talking. As an old man, I have learnt that most people accept a certain closeness when conversing and that there is an area that is too close. I like to hug or put a hand on a shoulder, far more than most men. Its just me. But all that is changed. So how will we deal with day to day kindness when this virus is no longer a death warrant.
Colin, so true. My husband, Mark, left me after 7 years - when I took the stroke. AS IF IT WAS MY FAULT! We were mostly really happy. Thought I knew him, AND he is a high ranking Social Worker too! (I encouraged him in his career.) That's why Billy still means much more to me, because he totally accepted me this way, bless. He was v v proud that I'd overcome so much too. Done lots in my life as well, like voluntary work. As well as my hard fought for legal career before the stroke.
I am a very huggy person too, and know this lockdown is well weird, but like many, I hope for better days soon! Thanks mate. Carole
Hi Shar , im no expert but i have a lot less pain than before after being advised to drop all sugar content from my diet , Im not suggesting a big plan to diet but just try to remove all sugars from your food and drinks . Just a thought , helped me . Keep up the good fight , Tony
Unfortunately Terri, the expression "Is this normal" just does not apply to stroke! The taste problem you may have to accept and hope that it eases after a while. The other defects like muscle tightness, speech problems, balance and clumsiness you will have to work on yourself, they can all be improved with effort. I found the emotional outbursts very difficult to cope with but I'm pleased that they have decreased tremendously although I have to be careful to avoid situations where they could re-occur.
Hello Tony, I must admit that since having the stroke my taste buds have completely changed.I now consume way more sweet foods than I ever did,so your suggestion about reducing sugar in my diet is a good idea and I will certainly be doing this in the future.I am really thankful for you replying to my post.Best wishes to you and keep safe and well,regards from What.
Hello Terri. Welcome to the forum. I am 10 months post stroke and was 40 when I had my stroke. I was let out of hospital after 3 days and pretty much started to rebuild my life from there. My advice is every emotion you are feeling is normal. I have been through them all and in the early stages, lack of motivation and anxiety were my biggest nemesis. I still get some days like it but are not as many. Do the exercises as regularly as you can. They will help and also help pass the time.
pace yourself well as post stroke fatigue may be a problem. Make sure you take regular rests.
one big adjustment I have had is my sensory awareness - increased taste, smell but most of all sound. I can get overwhelmed easily with noises, music etc but again it is getting better.
be kind to yourself and use the support of people around you and this forum will be a great support to you too.
I had my stroke on 15th August 2019 two days after my 68th birthday. It was a blood clot which paralysed,my left leg, arm,face & mouth. All four major indicators. I was near to death but my wife got an ambulance & with care & skill they stabilised me. I had several repeat episodes on the way to hospital & In the hospital. I had the clot buster injection & walked out of hospital the next day. Two days later I had a repeat episode & stayed in hospital a further 6 days.
i again walked out of hospital, albeit much slower with many stops along the way a stroke survivor with a right para median pontine infarct confirmed. I enrolled on several studies at the hospital to get my recovery under way. Get/set/go being extremely helpful. I was in the pool & gym within a week, building myself back up to where I was previously.
My wife & I drove to Spain for the winter (my wife mainly as I still get fatigued) although no one would think I am a stroke survivor, unless they know me. My left side is still weak, the closure of my gym has not helped due to coronavirus but I bought a rowing machine & row around my virtual lake at Roundhay Park here in Leeds 4/5 times each week. The fight to recover continues. My voice & speech are more or less back to normal but it has taken time & persistence.
Life is good, don't give up but find targets that you can achieve despite the virus. Sadly hospital support post stroke was not as it should be. We however got on with it, supported by my wife,who coaxed & cajoled me.
I had a stroke last October and I still have quite a few medical issues which are affecting my quality of life. Before the Stoke I was a fit 70 year old, playing golf 3 times a week and walking quite a lot.
I now find walking very tiring and am still a bot wobbly on my legs, I also suffer from head pains, muscle pain in my left side and have no feeling of hot and cold on the right side of my body including my right arm, leg and hand, my stroke was in the centre part of the brain and initially affected my left side and my eyes, double vision for several weeks. It is now 35 weeks since having my stroke and I'm feeling that I might never get back to normal, whatever that might be in today's world. Anyone else in a similar situation.
Hi Paul , similar. Just returned from clinic for blood tests . My wife drove me to door , I used my walker in , very prompt & efficient, back out 15 mins . ABSOLUTELY SHATTERED, back to bed . The minute my brain has to process different things, ie noises ,images , people or talking, almost a switch in my head turns off . Can on only focus on one thing at a time .
Fantastic I read so many improving, but unfortunately I feel some do not . Anybody else similar ? My simple treat of the day , rain or shine good cup of coffee in the garden, in my folley.
